Here is Gabor Mate, MD, author of When the Body Says No, speaking on "The Need for Authenticity" and its connection to health/ disease.
He lists these risk factors for disease:
1) automatic concern for the emotional needs of others, ignoring your own
2) compulsive identification with duty and responsibility, rather authentic self
3) suppressing, repressing "negative" emotions
4) belief that you are responsible for how others feel, and fear of disappointing them
We don't do this on purpose! No! He says this results from our adapting unconsciously, to protect ourselves.
From youtube channel science and nonduality. Listen in.